Interesting dream - What does this mean??! Please help!!!?
Hi everyone,
My grandmother passed away a few weeks ago and my mother had a very vivid, symbolic dream that she felt had a lot of meaning (but she wasn't sure what). She has these symbolic type of dreams occasionally and when she has them, she knows they mean something depending on the "feel" of the dream.
Yesterday we had a memorial for my wonderful grandmother and that night my mom dreamt of her father - in the dream he was very stern, and upset at her. She had just gotten back from a trip, and opened up her suitcase and her father looked at her dissapprovingly when she took out a handmade rug from it that he pointed out had been torn directly in half and sewn at the edges. She hadn't noticed it and he kept saying that she hadn't brought the rug back properly and that "half was missing". He was upset with her and my mom has been trying to think of what the half of the rug missing meant.
Any suggestions?
Huh, thats interesting.
My mom had a wonderful relationship with her mother - she devoted so much time and love to her as her mother had done with her. She was very sick in the end and lived far away (in another country). She was afraid that her father, who has long passed away, was upset with her for some reason. Something about the carpet being cut in half and her not having brought it back correctly.
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June 2nd, 2009 at 2:04 am
It’s hard to say when knowing nothing about your mother or her relationship with her parents. I’m assuming it was your maternal grandmother. It seems to me the trip is symbolic of your mother’s life and the end of the trip is her own mother’s passing. Now there are many things your mother cannot do for her own mother, or say to her. She is angry at herself because she feels she had plenty of time and new her mother would not last forever. But we choose not to think of death and what if this is the last time we will see family members. Your mother seems to have some regrets of things left undone. Maybe you could comfort her. Her real parents would not feel that way. Her father in the dream is like her conscience and not her real father. I hope that makes sense.
June 2nd, 2009 at 2:04 am
First of all I’m very sorry for your lost. I’ve lost a grandmother and grandfather so I know how difficult things can be. From my point of view it seems like your mother may not have settled a problem or made ends meet with your grandmother. It seems like your grandfather knows that your mother didn’t do something right for your grandmother. Maybe there were words left unsaid, a conflict under the surface that was never really solved. There are many possibilities. Maybe your mother needed to tell her something that she never got the chance to.
Hope I was of help.
June 2nd, 2009 at 2:04 am
First, my condolences … the death of a loved one is difficult to reconcile.
Your mom’s dream seems as if she and her dad (your grandfather) did not have the same warm and loving relationship as your mom did with her mother. The recent death of your grandmother has triggered some locked away thoughts and feeling (unconscious) that have been stored -and not effectively dealt with (in real-time).
The trip, suitcase, and torn-in-half rug could represent an actual exchange (long-standing disagreement) between your mom and her father that happened during one of your mom’s earlier days when your grandfather was alive … maybe your mom had just returned from holiday, or was visiting her parents for other reasons and something went wrong between you and your dad.
The rug itself can have some significance depending on the home country of your grandparents or countries your mom and her parents traveled to when she was younger ,,,
Or the rug can symbolize your mom’s relationship with your grandparents and -unconsciously- how your mom felt (real or perceived) about her father … that is, your mom did not have the same depth and quality of love for her father as she did for her mother. And, although your mom may not have expressed this outwardly toward your grandfather she nonetheless felt that her father “knew.”
Some of the possible circumstances for your mom to consider are i) did your grandfather approve of your mom’s marriage, ii) did your mom travel frequently when younger and her father felt she should be at home, iii) did your mom’s move to another country meet with disapproval with her dad … and things of this nature. I believe the “key” to your mom’s dream is contained in one -or several- of those earlier experiences.
And finally, because the rig is torn in half -and stitched, and is noticed by your grandfather and not your mother (initially), it’s quite possible that this represents the “tearing apart” of your mom’s relationship with her parents (at some point early in life) while also showing (stitching the torn edges) that your mom and her mom patched up the family differences and could “move on.”